The topic is really important for those of you who swings all their energy between certainty and uncertainty means (Fear Of Unknown). That's why, you need to acknowledge your fear of the unknown and the reason is, fear of the
unknown stops you from experiencing life it keeps you within the same closed
loop of your life doing the same thing in the same place with the same people
over and over and over again and never expanding and experiencing even anything
new in your life because you're afraid of what you don't know so you stay with
what you do know at the expense of that unknown and the unknown is exciting as
much as it as maybe terrifying so it's important to understand that there's a
price to pay, of course for living with a fear of the unknown the thing is that
your nature as a human being, as progressive, you are evolutionary by nature
all human beings are evolutionary by nature we are to evolve, to expand, to
learn, to explore, to adventure even within the small moments of our day-to-day
life so you're not designed to stay stuck, you're not designed to stay in a
closed loop even you're not designed to never experiencing anything more than
you're currently experiencing.
So it's essential for your own
achievement and fulfillment of your life for however long it is that you're
going to be alive in this lifetime that you move past the fear of the unknown
so you are able to fulfill that life experience as much as possible so before
we get on to talking about the Cure I want to get you to do just a little
visualization with me so you understand this concept of fear of the unknown
from a few different angles.
So imagine that
you're standing in a small circle and you can see a circle drawn around your
feet where you are standing, now I want you to think of that as your comfort
zone. so within that small circle is everything that you know, you know that
small circle well you've been living inside that small circle for your entire
life, you feel like you've got control that small circle because it's very
familiar to you it feels very certain to you. you know what things happen in
that circle you know who's in that circle you know how to do things in that
circle you know how life goes within that circle that comfort zone, I want you
to think of it like it's got a perimeter fence around it an electric fence and
that electric fence is run by your fear which means that you don't cross the boundary of your comfort zone, your control zone, your certainty zone, your
knowing and unfamiliar zone because of your fear. what lies beyond that
circle for you, beyond that comfort zone out into the expanse of the rest of
the world is what you perceive is totally unknown and uncertain for you, that
even outside of that known circle, unknown territory unknown people, places,
ways of operating are totally unfamiliar even not within your control in
feeling and that uncertainty, the lack of control of the unknown generates the
fear, that runs your comfort zone and you ask question to yourself that why you
stay there.
Now the root cause problem of all of that fear of the unknown is one
thing and that is, most people are addicted to wanting to know exactly what's
going to happen, they are addicted to certainty and they are addicted to
wanting control and that's why they stay within the comfort zone, control,
certainty and familiarity. Now here is the hilarious paradox that you think
you've got full control over in your comfort zone and outside of the zone you
don't have control and that life is uncertain so you stay where you are, you
stay away from anything new but you have no more control no more certainty
standing where you currently stand. Then what happens, a few were to embark out
on an adventure to go after a goal, to go after a dream to cross over the
boundary of your for sewing you have no more control and no more certainty
standing where you currently stand, then you have no other choice either to get
adaptive to the situation.
certainty is a
mental illusion that we create to make ourselves feel better and that might
sound like it's a little dark and gloomy to say that but it's true you ask
anyone who's had their life change in an instant because of circumstances
changing beyond what they perceived could be possible and you start to realize,
you don't know what tomorrow holds, you don't know what the next hour holds you
don't have control over other people and over wider circumstances, you only
have control over your energy your choices your actions your way of interacting
with the world and so this is actually liberating and this is not sad and
scary, the reason is it's liberty. It means every person have a right to live
on its own terms.
I'm going to give you
six steps to help you with that to live powerfully and peacefully in
the face of inherent uncertainty of life.
Step 1.Controls
your decisions and try to overcome your dream or goal restricted nature slowly
and gradually.
Step 2.You
must get really aware of the ways and watch that addiction to certainty is
limiting the experience of your life and is blocking your goals and your dreams
and your aspirations.
Step 3. I want you to
write down exactly what you would do right now in your life today if you wrote
down every single thing you want to achieve and struggle.
It was guaranteed you
wouldn't just step forth, you'd be running forth there'll be no stopping you
because you want certainty and if you had certainty you'd jump after it.
Step 4. But if there's no
certainty where you stand and there's no certainty out there it's you that's going
to create the familiarity and it's going to be you that creates the gold or
dream, there's nothing stopping you. the first thing to do is to at least
acknowledge that you're done with the certainty that you're done with needing
that you'll that you're done with living to that illusion and clinging to it
and that you invite and these endless possibilities.
Step 5. As take one small action in relation to achieving the
aspiration that you have your head for yourself just to kick-start the process
of walking forward and to unfamiliar territory one tiny action anything at all
reach out get information make a mind map of what you want to do list out the
actions that you want to take anything at all that creates some kind of
momentum and flow for you.
Step 6. Then
lastly step is to just acknowledge yourself I want you to notice that despite
opening yourself up to exciting possibility and being willing to live with the
uncertainty of not necessarily knowing what's going to happen next you are
still in one piece you are still alive and cooking and nothing bad has happened
so it's really about saying gosh you know what I went beyond the comfort zone
and look at me I'm fine and I've nudged the edges and my comfort zone is now
larger I'm I've made the unfamiliar familiar the unknowing no one and then
you've got to do this over and over and over again you just don't do it once you
do it many times as you create a wider horizon for yourself.
So at the end, the
really awesome quote,
“When you come to the
edge of all the light you have and must take a step into the darkness of the
unknown believed that one of two things will happen either there will be
something solid for you to stand on or you will be taught how to get through”.
I just think that
it's the most beautiful quote ever in relation to this topic of fear of the
unknown so I hope this has been helpful for you.
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