Secret to raise your social status as an introvert

I think a lot of times in society we look at introverts and say hey! You’re just going to have a lower lot in life. you're just not going to be able to attract the best relationships partners friends, you're not going to have the most success in business or asserting yourself in life and you're probably going to be insecure and not as comfortable with yourself.

 I think that its understandable how our society comes to this conclusion because that often is the case for introverts but I'm going to give you people three pillars. I'm going to basically share with you people how you can go from having maybe not the best social skills as an introvert to becoming very successful socially. So you can really live the best life possible and this is coming from someone who grew up.

Better social skills to be learned:

 You were totally introverted, you are still introverted and you don't have to change and become extroverted but learned better social skills,

1.          The first step for the journey of developing your social skills is interrupting strangers    

getting in high-pressure social situations on a consistent basis.

2.           The second one is raising your self-esteem.

3.         The third is developing the habit of consistently overcoming fear.

the main step is to interrupting strangers, approaching strangers and it sounds kind of extreme but it's pretty simple what I discovered is that humans we have like kind of this biological nature that kicks in, when you get approached by a stranger and it's because we come from 150 person tribes like millions of years ago, where if you meet someone who's a stranger meaning that they're outside of your tribe, your brain instantly kicks in and starts scanning them to understand, are they a friend or a foe an enemy or are they trying to sell you something.

 what's going on and when you approach a stranger, you're basically flexing your social muscles in building them over time because you're put into this high pressure of social situation where it's kind of sink or swim win or fail and you have to basically show up and be confronted in that social interaction.

A case study:

 I must share a case study, a person had a door to door sales for two year, where he was knocking doors six days a week, cold calling on people interrupting them in trying to sell them inexpensive product and what comes out of this I think if you think about social skills and think like okay what actually are social skills what does it mean when someone has a high quality social skills and really it's the ability to read social cues. So it's being socially aware and being able to tell what someone is thinking, feeling not from the words that are coming out of their mouth.

But from the energy of the environment, women are typically much better at this than men. As likewise when that person started doing door-to-door sales, he was blown away. When he reached the point where he could start to tell, if people were telling the truth or if they were lying, and that like completely blew his mind. Because when he was younger, he couldn't really read social cues as well so I think the place where you're approaching loads of strangers or where you're having to interact with new people on a consistent basis, you can easily learn to cope with such social mass. If you work in computer program or something where you're by yourself most of the time, it’s quite difficult to overcome your fear of a high pressure social interactions.

 I would recommend outside of your job that really push yourself to say to hello to everyone that you pass to smile at people to engage with everyone. You come across with to basically build your social muscle and developing a higher self-esteem.

 What is self-esteem?

 Self-esteem is essentially how much you like and respect yourself, it’s how much you love and accept yourself and it's how much you understand and have compassion for yourself. The higher your self-esteem really the happier you are in life, but it also leads to much better social skills.

  With most of the teenagers, the common problem, although have pretty decent social skills but develop a chronic acne condition which leads basically lost all confidence, be reluctant to talk to people. Some of them never give up and tried hard to find different ways out like detoxification from raw foods, using herbs and try different exercises.

  It also help to raise the self-esteem dramatically and help in putting so much self-love and acceptance into yourself and when you came out of it. Your social skills didn't even improve that much but you got completely different the quality of friends that were interested in you. So you must like and respect yourself so much. Because

“People always take you at your own self-assessment.”

 So we're always telling people who in what we are and it's not the words that we're speaking it's really the body language is really the underlying everything beneath the words. We’re always teaching people who we are and it's like if you get approached by a homeless person and they're asking for money or cigarettes or something before they even say the words that are coming out of their mouths. You can kind of just tell that they're asking to take rather than give.

 but on the other hand if you get approached by an individual who has high self-esteem oftentimes you'll stop dead in your tracks and you'll say wait a second this person has something important to tell me and so developing your self-esteem also means that you tend to attract into get into relationships with people who have a similar level of self-esteem so if you raise your self-esteem you're going to end up attracting higher quality partners, friends, business relationships and everything.

To overcome Fear through Meditation:

 So one of the best ways really to achieve any of your goals is to learn how to overcome fear, because any time you're trying something new any time you need to approach someone, eat anytime, you need to do anything to accomplish any goal, you're always going to be scared and the best way that I learned how to overcome fear was through meditation. The reason being in meditation you learn how to tap into your body and you learn about physical sensations and how they relate to emotions and you discover that fear.

 What is fear?

 Fear is actually an uncomfortable sensation that we're feeling in our body that we're resisting so if you need to approach someone for a business deal, if you're doing a cold call or if you need to approach someone of any other purpose, you're always going to feel fear.

Ripping a Band-Aid off:

But the key is learning how to relax into your body to feel the sensations that are uncomfortable and that you are resisting and to take action anyways. So it's kind of like jumping in cold water or ripping a Band-Aid off it's you know that it's going to suck but you just take action in spite of feel the fear but take concrete action anyways.